When the pain of what you are going through becomes greater than the fear of change, you change … but I recommend you avoid most of the pain, embrace the change and adjust.

Perhaps embracing change is not your nature. So how do you bring yourself to a place where change is less traumatic? The first step is to realize that change is always coming. It’s also helpful to acknowledge your emotions about the change ahead; don’t stuff your feelings! If you’re not honest about how you feel, you can easily end up resenting the need to comply with or adapt to the inevitable. Any resentment you harbor can negatively affect your ability to adjust quickly. It can also hamper your willingness to ask for help when needed. Don’t wait; learn the new way, and realize that it takes more guts to ask for help than it does to think you don’t need any help!

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